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A book review: “Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” by Allison K. Flexer

A book review: “Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” by Allison K. Flexer.Truth Lies Single Woman

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A Resource for Single Women {And Another Chance to Win my Book!}

As a single woman, I remember reading a great blog called Triple Braided Life by Brenda H. Rodgers. She’s a married woman who calls herself a “recovering single.” I love that! Brenda also says,

I was single for longer than I expected, and it was the hardest time in my life. During those years I could not reconcile why God gave me the intense desire to be a wife and mother and yet those desires were not being fulfilled.

I relate to that 100%. Her blog is a great resource for young women, no matter their marital status. She offers encouragement and Biblical advice. Her current series on the blog is 31 Days of Interviews with Single Women Making a Difference. I highly recommend reading these interviews, and you may see some familiar names from the #SingleTruth blog tour as well!

Single Woman Book Single TruthI realized I may have buried the lead a bit here because today on her blog, Brenda wrote an amazing review of Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman!

She talks about how we need more resources for single women, and I totally agree.

AND she’s giving away an autographed copy! If you haven’t won any of the previous giveaways, here’s another chance to win your copy of my book for single women. {By the way, you don’t have to be a single woman to enter! I have heard from many single men who are reading and enjoying the book as well as women who have been married a long time!}

Click that cool button above to hop over to Brenda’s blog and read her post about Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman!

Happy Monday!


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“That Really Stinks. I’m Sorry.”

baseballSometimes, life knocks us down. Throws us a curveball or a punch…whatever metaphor you want to choose.

Maybe it’s a breakup you didn’t see coming. Or a dream that’s been crushed. Devastating news you’re weren’t expecting.

When those things happen, it’s important to grieve and feel the fullness of it. When I’m sad and angry, I’m not looking for someone to tell me God has a plan and that “all things work together for good for those who love God.”

I know those things. Deep in my heart, I do. I even wrote many of those things in my book for single women. Honestly, I love Romans 8:28 and know it to be true, and there is a time for sharing it. But in the midst of my anger and sadness, I want to hear something else…

“That really stinks. I’m sorry.” Period.

I’m not looking for someone to fix it. I’m looking for a friend who is okay with not having the answers, one who just stands beside me in the messiness of the situation.

I recall being single and camping out emotionally in some really dark places. Not understanding God’s plan and maybe not really caring at that moment. Just hurting.

If you know someone who is in a bad place, or someone who just received news that turned the world upside down, be that friend who simply says,

“That really stinks. I’m sorry.”   tweet-this_button

And then listen. Maybe tell them you’ll be praying. Unless that friend looks at you and says, “What do you think?”, then just listen.

If you’re hurting today, if you’re the one who got knocked to the ground with some bad news, I’m so sorry. Sometimes, life really stinks. (See what I did there?).

How can I pray for you? Please leave me a comment or email me (allison [at] allisonflexer [dot] com) and let me know. It would be an honor to lift up your name in prayer.


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Wrapping up the #SingleTruth Blog Tour with a fun “Bachelorette to Bride” Post

SingleTruthBannerToday is the final day of the three-week Single Truth Blog Tour. My goodness, it’s been a busy and fun few weeks! If you missed any of the posts along the way, check out the recap on the Single Truth Blog Tour Page.


This new post is a great one to finish up our blog tour. Brett Wilson from The Prodigal Sister wanted to ask me some questions about the transition from being single to being in a relationship. The resulting “Bachelorette to Bride” post is different than any of the interviews I have done thus far and definitely worth reading . . . she asked tough questions that really made me think!


 {Click here to read the post: FROM SINGLE-ING TO MINGLING: HOW TO TAKE THE LEAP}

Brett has also agreed to guest post here at Anointed With Grace next month, and I can’t wait for you to hear what she has to say!


Also, I wanted to thank all of the participants in the #SingleTruth blog tour. You all made this so much fun with amazing content, giveaways, and reader interaction. I’m so grateful!


And a special thanks to Rachel McPherson from Beacon Hill Press who kept me from pulling my hair out and did a beautiful job organizing the blog tour!

I’m so appreciative of all the blog readers who followed along on the blog tour and got a flurry of emails as I posted each day! Be sure to check the Events page for upcoming author events and check back next week for some brand new blog content.

Happy Friday!


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