“That Really Stinks. I’m Sorry.”

baseballSometimes, life knocks us down. Throws us a curveball or a punch…whatever metaphor you want to choose.

Maybe it’s a breakup you didn’t see coming. Or a dream that’s been crushed. Devastating news you’re weren’t expecting.

When those things happen, it’s important to grieve and feel the fullness of it. When I’m sad and angry, I’m not looking for someone to tell me God has a plan and that “all things work together for good for those who love God.”

I know those things. Deep in my heart, I do. I even wrote many of those things in my book for single women. Honestly, I love Romans 8:28 and know it to be true, and there is a time for sharing it. But in the midst of my anger and sadness, I want to hear something else…

“That really stinks. I’m sorry.” Period.

I’m not looking for someone to fix it. I’m looking for a friend who is okay with not having the answers, one who just stands beside me in the messiness of the situation.

I recall being single and camping out emotionally in some really dark places. Not understanding God’s plan and maybe not really caring at that moment. Just hurting.

If you know someone who is in a bad place, or someone who just received news that turned the world upside down, be that friend who simply says,

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And then listen. Maybe tell them you’ll be praying. Unless that friend looks at you and says, “What do you think?”, then just listen.

If you’re hurting today, if you’re the one who got knocked to the ground with some bad news, I’m so sorry. Sometimes, life really stinks. (See what I did there?).

How can I pray for you? Please leave me a comment or email me (allison [at] allisonflexer [dot] com) and let me know. It would be an honor to lift up your name in prayer.

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Wrapping up the #SingleTruth Blog Tour with a fun “Bachelorette to Bride” Post

SingleTruthBannerToday is the final day of the three-week Single Truth Blog Tour. My goodness, it’s been a busy and fun few weeks! If you missed any of the posts along the way, check out the recap on the Single Truth Blog Tour Page.

 

This new post is a great one to finish up our blog tour. Brett Wilson from The Prodigal Sister wanted to ask me some questions about the transition from being single to being in a relationship. The resulting “Bachelorette to Bride” post is different than any of the interviews I have done thus far and definitely worth reading . . . she asked tough questions that really made me think!

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 {Click here to read the post: FROM SINGLE-ING TO MINGLING: HOW TO TAKE THE LEAP}

Brett has also agreed to guest post here at Anointed With Grace next month, and I can’t wait for you to hear what she has to say!

THANK YOU!

Also, I wanted to thank all of the participants in the #SingleTruth blog tour. You all made this so much fun with amazing content, giveaways, and reader interaction. I’m so grateful!

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And a special thanks to Rachel McPherson from Beacon Hill Press who kept me from pulling my hair out and did a beautiful job organizing the blog tour!

I’m so appreciative of all the blog readers who followed along on the blog tour and got a flurry of emails as I posted each day! Be sure to check the Events page for upcoming author events and check back next week for some brand new blog content.

Happy Friday!

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How to Blog Your Way to a Book Deal: An Interview with Allison K. Flexer

Truth Lies Single Woman

 

You can find me over at Inspire Christian Writers today hosting a live chat in the blog comments!

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Have a fantastic Thursday!

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A New Friend, A Book Review & A Birthday!

Know that feeling when you meet someone and it seems like you’ve known each other forever? I feel that way about Holly Hrywnak. We haven’t actually met in person yet, but we’ve talked on the phone and we’ve connected online quite a bit over the past month (so much that I no longer have to look up how to spell her last name!!)

Holly is a beautiful 30-year-old single woman, and I wrote Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman for amazing women like her. Check out Holly’s thoughts on the book here in her book review. (She’s also giving away a copy of the book, so definitely check out her post!)

Holly says:

It’s like I’m sitting down with a close friend over a cup of coffee and she’s listening to me spout off the things I’ve been thinking about concerning my singleness. She hears the hurt, the loneliness, and the lies. The lies that tell me that I’m unlovable and unworthy of love.

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In other news, today is my birthday! I’m sure you’re racking your brain about what to get me as a birthday gift (by the way, I totally had to look up whether to use wrack or rack and was surprised by the answer! #grammarnerd). Anyway, I’ll tell you what I would enjoy. If you’ve read Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman, I would love for your to share your thoughts by posting a review on Amazon or Goodreads. It’s so easy, and the birthday girl would be very grateful! :)

Thank you for all of your support during the release of Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman!

Have a fantastic October 8th!

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